365+ Days Of Growth


Originally posted 08/02/2021

*Peaks in*

Alright... I know it's been a while. I know. I haven't been too active on my website, but that's because I've been busy crushing shit in the real world. Since my last blog entry I became a certified reiki practitioner, I launched another deck, I had a bunch of career wins like interviewing Meagan Good and writing the cover story for HelloBeautiful, and I've also landed some amazing speaking engagements.

I wouldn't say I've been too busy to blog, but I reallocated my creative juices to other areas. Professionally, things have been on the up and up. Working as a full-time editor has been rewarding because it provides me the space to promote Black women and Black-owned businesses. When I'm not doing that, I get to advocate for various communities by using my unique voice. I honestly can't complain.

This time last year I was in a space of self-discovery. At the top of 2020 I met a woman that my unhealed self thought was "the one". As I think to 365 days ago, I remember begging to be seen, valued, and appreciated. When I finally decided to walk away, I learned the only person that needed to see, value and appreciate me was ME.

(me pictured in August, 2020)

I had to heal the parts of me that allowed others to diminish my worth. I built myself up to fully acknowledge my value so that no one could ever make me feel worthless. I romanced myself. Took myself on vacations. I began to say no to people, places, and things that didn't serve a purpose in my life. I was shifting into a more refined, aware version of myself and I loved it!

As a result of my inner work, I began to exude confidence on steroids. There was a glow that people noticed immediately. Whether I went out with friends, or posted a photo to social media, people would talk about the energy I was radiating. I channeled that energy into a few photo shoots that showed different parts of who I am. As I continued to pour into myself, things continued to fall into place.

(Me in June, 2021)

What a difference a year makes.

After last year's heartbreak, I wasn't interested in dating. My heart was damaged, but it was my spirit that needed fine-tuning. Working on myself was vital if I wanted to attract someone on my wavelength. I began to write down the qualities I wanted in a partner. I knew I'd need someone who is honest, open-minded, spiritual, loving, ambitious, and family-oriented. I wanted a soul with gentle energy that matched mine. Every New Moon I'd write my intentions around attracting my soulmate.

I got extremely intentional. I purchased a "first date" shirt to wear on a date with my soulmate. After a bad date, I wrote her a letter and kindly asked her to hurry up and save me from this ghetto dating life. Two weeks later, she appeared.

Meeting her was proof that manifestations are very real. It also showed me how powerful your mind is when you set intentions. As I rewind 365 days, I am taken by the way the Universe conspires to paint the picture you create in your mind. Knowing this, I put all of my energy into channeling thoughts that are conducive to my lifestyle and well-being.

This journey has been amazing and I wouldn't change a thing. I'm excited to share all the new developments happing in my life through the power of manifestation. I also share some more during the premiere episode of season 2's Introvert N the City Podcast, launching this Friday, August 6th. If you want to learn more about this upcoming New Moon's energy, you'll want to tune into this episode. Janine and I will catch you up to speed on this Leo moon, and we'll also give great tips and tricks to manifesting the things you want to bring into reality.